Love is a difficult concept and one that seems to trip up
many people.
There are several types of love. For example, love for a
friend, love for relatives, love of a parent for a child and the love of one
person to another in a relationship.
All types of love come with their own complications.
I hear people speak of things like unconditional love and I
believe that the key to any healthy relationship is balanced love.

I know that I have been fortunate. I was gifted with wanting
to be a good parent and my kids and I have always had a wonderful, trusting and
deep relationship. I have always been there for them and they have never done
anything that would make me question our relationship.
Having said that, they have always known that I don’t
believe in unconditional love. I believe
that is a huge part of the reason that we all have such an amazing, deep
relationship.
They knew that I was going to be patient and liberal, on the
small indiscretions, but if there were any prolonged misbehavior or major
indiscretions, I didn’t and don’t feel any need to still be there for them.
I know this sounds harsh and that people will think, “Well
you haven’t experienced this, that or some other thing.” This is true. I
haven’t experienced “this, that or some other thing” and I know that I have
been blessed and lucky. I am thankful for that everyday.
In defining that “luck” my luck started with knowing that I
wanted to be a parent.
From that point it was my responsibility to make sure that I
was present and in the moment with my kids as often as I could be. I was.
Because I was I was able to develop a deep, trusting and
conditional relationship with my kids we were able to handle a divorce and
several huge transitions while deepening our relationship.
My hope is that they will enter loving relationships with a
sense of “balance”.
Give enough, receive enough but don’t give or receive too
much.
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